If you don’t know, my boyfriend is a hot shot firefighter (wildland firefighter). Let me give you the quick run down…
- Seasonal work… roughly April through October
- Works about 3 weeks on, may or may not have cell service where he is at. Or electricity, which means no charged phone.
- Sleeps on the ground, hotels if they are lucky and depending on the assignment.
- The areas where he goes can be extremely dangerous.
- Gets 2 days off to be with friends and family.
This weekend Carl’s first R&R days occurred and luckily they landed when I had time off too! Biggest lesson learned? Enjoy the time you have. Don’t worry about the small details. He is here when he is here, and I want to love him and squeeze him as much as I can before he goes back.
For some reason I cried – a lot – which I wasn’t anticipating. I was fine when he left the first time, I didn’t cry while he was gone, but it all seemed to hit me once I saw him! I was in such a tizzy! There was so much to fit into so little time. Somehow, I landed this guy who is as understanding and as patient as they come. He didn’t make me feel bad for crying, instead he held me, calmed me, and helped me realize that he is here NOW so let’s make the most of it instead of stressing about when the time is going to be over.
Next time he has his days off, you bet I am just going to go with it. Which I said I would this time, but I wasn’t anticipating or expecting all the feels! And no use worrying about what did or didn’t get to happen or how things went this last weekend… Like I said, it was a lesson learned. And we will get better with time 🙂
Just a tip for those of you ladies, if you are dating a hot shot… be kind to him. They have long hours, hard work, and they need their wits about them when they are out on the job or it could make a dangerous situation even worse. Meaning, when that opportunity arises to talk to them on the phone? Don’t ream them with petty bullshit. Love them, hug them when they are home, support them, and make an effort to learn what is REALLY worth bringing up and what you can learn to let go. You know they wouldn’t risk getting their hearts broken over just anybody, so be kind to him and respect his choices as he respects yours.
That’s all ❤
Fit, Sweet, and Sassy! 